Online dating can be a numbers game. You need to always put your best foot forward when you find a profile that’s intriguing and are interested in pursuing someone. But what many singles fail to realise is that, their number-one pick may also be many other people’s favourite, too!
But remember, there could be heavy competition for dates and you can’t afford to blow your first impression, either online or off-line.
Here are some first-date mistakes that you absolutely can’t afford to make if you want to put a second date on your planning calendar:
- Avoid the ex-factor: No one wants to hear about your sad past on a first date. Instead, always try to keep it light and fun.
Talk about your favourite film, play, vacation spot, book, or what you enjoy doing on the weekends.
- Flirting with disaster: I hear about men having a roving eye while on their first date with someone. So, men: focus on the woman you are meeting. Be captivated by your first-date conversation and engage with her.
- Don’t dress for the bedroom: Men are visual creatures and they can imagine undressing women with their eyes the moment they meet.
This doesn’t mean that women should wear a sexy low-cut outfit showing off lots of cleavage. Men like to slowly unwrap a package, so to speak.
Unless you’re just looking for a hook-up, women should leave the sexy clothes for when they really are ready for a more intimate relationship.
- Hide the IPhone and Blackberry: Sure, you connect with others online. But when you get to your date, put your smartphone in your pocket or purse and leave it there.
It shouldn’t be a visible accessory on your date. Otherwise, it will give the impression that you are waiting for a better invitation to come in. Avoid the urge to check your messages and text a friend while you’re on a date.
- Do your homework: Just as you should be prepared for a job interview by researching your prospective employer to make a good impression, you should remember important details about the date you’re meeting.
Print out your date’s profile. Make notes on the page outlining the conversations you have together. Mention something that you liked about his or her profile.
Don’t act like this person’s just another number in a series and that you’re too busy dating around to remember individual details.
- It’s a first date, not an instant relationship: Dating and courting is a process. Even if you connect on a deeper level and think he or she could be The One, don’t start talking about your future together right now. It’s just a first date.
Enjoy the fact that it’s going well. Be excited that you both want to put a second date on the calendar, but don’t start filling up someone’s life as the instant girlfriend or instant boyfriend. It can come across as needy and you might get a text message later on canceling date number two.
Show your date that you have a full and happy life. Having someone special in it will just make it that much better. And remember that courtship should be enjoyable!
Even if there is no chemistry on your date, don’t be rude and walk out. What if your date happens to have a friend he or she’d be happy to introduce to you that would be a better fit?
Look at every date as a possibility for expanding your social network or meeting a new friend. If it turns into a romantic relationship, then you’ve hit the jackpot.