Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter. – Mark Twain
So I received a mail from a very interesting ladyby name Priscilla, who follows our weekly blog on our various featured online platforms. I was initially against the publishing of this article but upon second thoughts, I reconsidered everything and decided to put it out here to find out how many people would side with her.
She started “Good day madam, I am a huge fan of your weekly relationship blog and I couldn’t help but identify with some of the unfortunate predicaments of the people who share their stories to the rest of the world through you.
“Most of these young ladies who wrote to you about their broken hearts have only one problem in common… they are all in relationships with younger men (between 23- 32) who are obviously still amateurs and are still in their learning curves so they obviously do not know the value of having strong women in their lives.
“I had my fair share of broken hearts before I turned twenty-six (26) and that landed me into very critical stages of emotional and mental breakdown. I was betrayed, abused and cheated in my past three (3) relationships with men who were four (4) or five (5) years older than I was. Don’t get me wrong, dating men in your peer group is all fun and exciting until it’s time for him to follow the next thing in skirt; then, he would make you understand how you were the one who forced him to ‘love’ you or even have sex with you/how unprepared, unstable and skeptical he was about everything but had to give in because you pushed him to. All I’m saying is, our young men of today are extremely clever in cooking up schemes to maneuver their way in and out of the panties of young, beautiful and innocent women.
“My previous relationship with Ransford was nothing to write home about. Though it started in the most romantic way ever, he never hesitated to ‘drop me it’s hot’ when it was time to move on to next available victim. We met on a flight from Lagos to Accra almost two years ago, the chemistry between us was strong and one look into his eyes was more than enough to turn me on; We exchanged contacts, started going on romantic dates and trips together. He got a complete hold on me and I found myself falling fast into his love net. Hmm… exactly after six (6) months of dating he changed towards me. He began treating me with utter disrespect and stopped acknowledging me as his partner. Weeks after tolerating him and all the pain he was putting me through, he thought it wise to end everything with the usual break up line of younger men “baby… you deserve better, I know I hurt you and I know can’t fix this. I need to fix myself and free myself of what I have become. It’s not you, it’s me. And I hope you can forgive me. I love you.” … can you imagine this? How can you slap me in the face and say you love me at the same time, how does that even work?
“Somehow I managed to move on from him and that was the very last time I hooked up with a younger guy. Then I met Mr. Ofori Atta, a good looking older man in his late forties and a successful business mogul…and oh! A married man as well. This man treated me with so much love, respect and served me with nothing less than intense passion. Our relationship grew stronger and I realized it was nothing like the previous ones I had been in; he was an absolute gentleman who treated me like a true queen. I later had enough of the good life and left him to explore my other options and also because I couldn’t stand the thoughts of being caught by his wife… then I met Mr. Wilson Lindsay, another wonderful man in his early fifties and fortunately for me he was single and as a bonus, treated me even better than Ofori Atta. Summing up my whole life, I have come to realize how much of my precious time I had wasted hoping to find love in the small small boys of our era. All these guys in their twenties and early thirties don’t mean business, all they know how to do is to blow your mind with great sex and mess you up with their evil indecisiveness which is painful enough to drive any good girl insane.
“So to enumerate my reasons:
- Older men are very sensitive and very honest.
- They know just what every woman wants hence, treat women with enough love, respect and the right dose of pampering.
- They know the technicalities involved in understanding women and our emotional nature.
- They value your time enough not to waste it.
- Yes… they do cheat but do attach much respect to it that you don’t lose your value and worth as a woman and they would still treat like they’ve always done regardless of the presence of the other women in his life.
“Naya, please make the young ladies out there aware of this so they can stop killing themselves over these underserving young men of this century. I rest my case.”
Hmmm… that is a lot to take in. Dear readers, what do you have to say to Priscilla, does she have a point?